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Finding Love During the Holidays

For someone who is single and looking, never do you feel more single than the holiday season.

Everywhere you look there's engagement announcements popping up on Facebook, pictures of happy couples on Instagram, and the nosy but well-meaning family member asking you during Christmas dinner why you're still not dating anyone. The holidays can be a trying time for single people. 
For those of you who are looking for that New Year's Eve date or to kick off a new romance in the New Year , it's not too late!

Lisa Mitchell, Communications Expert & Founder of Power Body Language, shares a few things you can do right now to start meeting potential partners & building connection. 

Tip 1: 
Don't isolate! It may be tempting to just throw on some comfy sweats and Netflix binge the holidays away but sitting home by yourself isn't going to introduce you to new people. Say "Yes!" to those party invitations, group dinners, and nights out even if you think you'll already know everyone there. You never know when someone will bring their cute co-working, cousin who's in from out of town, or who you might just bump into by leaving your house and getting out of your normal routine. If using technology is more your style, put that profile up on your app of choice and start swiping those who catch your eye with the intention of actually engaging in a conversation and a potential date. 

Tip 2: 
Make A Great First Impression: Once you've made it out of the house, or on to a dating app, first impressions are key to helping to attract the interest you looking for. People form first impressions of you really quickly, in a matter of seconds in fact, so the signals that you give that indicate that you're open to connect, friendly, and coming from a place of good intentions will help a potential partner feel safe to approach you and strike up conversation. 

A few simple techniques to signal your interest are:
1) Give Them A Smile: A genuine smile, one that engages the eyes, is a simple and easy-to-decode cue to the other person that you're happy to see them and would be open to them approaching you 
2) Make Eye Contact: I'm not talking about a creepy stare here, think more like repeated eye contact with each subsequent gaze being slightly more prolonged than the previous gaze. Making eye contact and then looking away, only to re-engage quickly signals your interest clearly and if it's returned, let's you know that he/she is interested in you as well. 

Tip 3: 
Make the first move: When it comes to dating and connecting with people, whether it's at a bar, the grocery store, or on a dating app, don't just sit back and wait for the person you're interested in to be brave enough to approach you. Be bold and make the first move! Whether it's a clever observation, a genuine (and not creepy) compliment you give, or a simple hello, don't be shy! The truth is almost everyone who is single has a fear of rejection and the more you can do to show confidence and make it less awkward, the better that first interaction will go. 

Dating during the holidays is a lot like the lottery, you can't win if you don't play. So put your sweatpants away, venture out into the world, and be ready to make the first move to start the New Year with a new love interest! 

For more information, visit, or connect with Lisa on Instagram: @lisamitchellindy.  

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